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The official blog of author Tali Nay.
APR
17

Carlsbad Flower Fields and a Survey

This is one of those times that I quiet the inner voices of frustration and panic over how ridiculously expensive it is to live in San Diego County and consider that the financial premium is sometimes worth it. Because it's just so damn beautiful here. The ocean, the weather, and, more specifically, the Flower Fields in Carlsbad that bloom each spring.

For those of us who live here and take time to notice, we can see the evolution of the fields coming together over the entire year. I don't know much about flowers, BUT I do know it sure looks like the overall maintenance of the fields is a large undertaking. And there's nothing quite like seeing the fields in full bloom, which they were this weekend, looking nothing short of spectacular. If you're in the area, don't miss this. If you're planning a visit in the next few weeks, don't miss it either. If you're in any other category, put this on your bucket list for an April in your future.

Easter is a lovely time to reflect, not just about the religious significance if it holds that for you, but also about spring and re-birth in general, new paths or projects that can leave us refreshed. I'm continually working on myself and my own next steps, both small and large, and one of those is to continue plugging away at my newest writing project. If you're at all interested in contributing to that project, I'm currently looking for perspectives from women...those with children and those without. Click the link below that applies to you if you have 3 minutes to take a brief survey. Your anonymous comments may end up making it into my next book!!

https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/PTNNQR3 Children

https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/PTGJWQQ No Children

SEP
09

Spinster

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I know I've been overwhelming you with books posts lately, but wouldn't you know it that just after posting my top ten books (Top Ten Books that I Love), I've read a new one that just might bump something else out. And at the risk of subjecting you to a book reviewy post (isn't that what Goodreads is for?), I simply have to say that if you are a single girl--or anyone who thinks reading about significant female writers of the nineteenth and twentieth centuries who bucked tradition by staying (or at least preferring to be) single--you simply must read this book.

Let me be clear. I'm not one of those women who loves to hate on marriage or shout about how I don't need a man. It's true, I don't need a man and have most of the time found being single preferable to being in a relationship (the exception being the one time I was in love), but I am still a person who wants to be married. In that if I could choose for this, my life, to go any way, I would choose to someday have the opportunity to be married. So in that regard I don't relate as much to the author and her "awakeners'" single-or-bust mentality.

That said, our society could use a crash course on the single woman, and this book was consequently a fascinating and refreshing read. Because spinster didn't used to have such a negative connotation. Interesting then that it--spinsterhood--has over the course of time transformed into the one thing every girl hopes will never happen to her. And why exactly is that? How is it that we've come to believe that ending up alone is the worst possible thing that can ever happen to you? A question made even more blatantly ridiculous after reading about these remarkable, interesting, and fascinating women who not only achieved success and acclaim without a man by their sides, but also didn't spend decades of their lives drowning in the sea of societal pressure surrounding marriage. (Sister ain't got time for that, and, quite frankly, neither do you.) And that's what our society--or, at the very least, the minds of female singletons--could use less of; this constant drone of marriage and when it will happen and where it will happen and with whom it will happen and if it will happen and how many eggs I'll have left when it happens and what if there are no eggs left at all when it happens and maybe I should freeze some just in case it happens and on and on for the rest of the days of your bag lady, multi-cat owning unfortunateness. If you ask me, that is what sister ain't got time for. So get on with it. Life. Yours.